Women often struggle to understand the mind of a man. Milo Edwards, proficient in relationship and life skills, explains why it’s all about changing attitudes and being compassionate.
When it comes to men, we’re far more emotional than women think. Our emotions aren’t seen because men internalize things and just don’t share often and openly, which isn’t healthy. We’re internal, and women are external; women immediately talk about problems, while men go inside, seeking a solution, and think before speaking. The fact we’re not speaking every time something happens doesn’t mean we don’t care. So when women yell, “Why are you just sitting there, saying nothing?” such an attack just pushes men further inside. If you give him time to think, he’ll surely have an answer for you.
A man wants to quit and leave because he is constantly under attack and gets tired. He needs a woman to stand by him, not attacking him, because society and all other things are trying to break him down. Ladies, we need your help, and if you have a good man, acknowledge him for all he takes to stay strong and fight the endless fight. Because it’s hard being a man! I know it’s hard for you, too, but it’s acceptable in society for a lady to be a housewife and/or president. But it’s only acceptable for a man to attempt to be president of and/or rule something, and that is stressful. I’m not minimizing what ladies go through, and Lord knows you go through a lot. But you never have the expectations laid upon you that are laid upon a man. It’s hard – that’s why some quit, some die, some sell drugs and some go crazy trying to be a man who takes care of it all. Woman live, on average, ten years longer than men, and the pressure of being a man cuts our lives short. When you go to your family gatherings, you see more women than men. The women outlive us, and that leaves our young men having no man to show them the way of a man.
We have a serious crisis on our hands. Men commit 80% of suicides in the world. Men are three times more likely to commit suicide in their 40s. We need to take time, be aware and acknowledge the fact that our men are dying. A lot of the time, ladies, you make it all about you! Men wonder when will it be about them; on Mother’s Day, ladies have it all, but Father’s Day is gone in the blink of an eye, and men return to their job as head of the complaints department. When is it going to be about your man?
Under a man’s suit, hard hat and skin, he’s in pain. I know men are making a huge mistake when they shut up; men don’t talk to people about their problems, and we’re going through hell. Everyone wants the man to be Superman, but not every man can be Superman. Men must open their mouths about what’s concerning them and show their emotions, because men are emotional. But the fear of negative stigmas being attached to being known as emotional makes a man shut up. A number of women want a man to express his emotions but then will attack him about the vulnerability he displays.
Ladies, your man needs you to stop being selfish and display sincere concern about his needs and emotions. You’ll find when you use a direct approach he’ll come out and talk to you. Don’t ask trick questions – they only start fights. Speak directly, openly and honestly with your man. He’ll then give you an open, direct, honest answer. But if you attack him, he’ll go within himself and may never come out to you. A man must feel safe in expressing emotional issues with you, without the threat of being attacked. Help him stay out, and help yourself get the love you desire from your man. Talk to your man, giving him the type of love you wish to receive.
