In every adult romantic relationship, there’ll come a time where you have to make big decisions that’ll affect the future – and they’re rarely easy choices to make. For one reader, she’s trying to make a choice of whether to give up her life at home to move across the world with her other half, or to end a budding relationship to stay. It’s a tough one, but Agony Aunt Paisley Billings of Tattoo Fixers is here to offer some much needed guidance…
The big problem
Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year and a half – and things are going well between us, for the most part. We have lots of fun together, and our friends get along really well – even my mum likes him! But ever since we first got together, he’s told me that eventually he wants to move to Australia and continue his fitness business there. It’s always been an ‘in the future’ factor, so I’ve never thought about it too much. But ever since we’ve gotten into the new year, he’s been talking about it more and more – and now, he’s saying he wants to move there in October! The job I do, I can do basically anywhere, so if it came to moving with him I don’t think I’d have a problem in that sense. But the thing is – I don’t think I want to go. I don’t think it’s a place for me, and it’s so far away from what I know, and the other people I love… I’d literally only be moving there for my boyfriend (not even my fiancé, yet!), and that’s a lot of pressure to put on a relationship. Then again, the thought of breaking up when things are otherwise great is really breaking my heart. Should I risk it all and move to Australia, or cut my losses and break things off before we get even deeper into the relationship?
Paisley’s advice
Babes,
I’m not going to beat around the bush at all with this one. I think you should go. A new environment is exciting this could be great for you, and great for your relationship too. How do you know if it’s not the place for you if you don’t try? If it’s going to break your heart to break up with him, stay together. If you can do your job anywhere in the world – go! Take that risk, see the world. Just remember if you do go not to put too much pressure on the relationship. Explore, make new friends, create new work opportunities. This is about your life, as well as your life together.
Sending love & light,
Paisley B xx
